Why ‘I Didn’t Know’ Is the Dumbest Excuse in Submission
Didn’t know you had a deadline? Didn’t know you were supposed to send proof? Sweetheart, let’s be clear: ignorance isn’t cute—it’s annoying.
In any relationship—especially a D/s dynamic—excuses are not just unappealing; they’re outright counterproductive. And nothing makes My eyes roll faster than hearing a submissive utter those dreaded words: “I didn’t know.” Whether it’s forgetting a task, missing a deadline, or conveniently overlooking a rule, this excuse screams laziness, not innocence. If you want to be taken seriously as a submissive, it’s time to drop the excuses and start showing up with accountability.
Why “I Didn’t Know” Is a Pathetic Defense
It’s Avoidable
When you’re given an instruction, your job isn’t just to hear it—it’s to absorb it, act on it, and, if necessary, clarify it. Submissives who care about being reliable ask questions when something isn’t clear. Submissives who don’t? Well, they’re the ones who conveniently “didn’t know” because they never bothered to understand in the first place. If you aren’t sure about something, it’s far better to ask than to sit back and hope your ignorance goes unnoticed. Spoiler alert: it won’t.
It Shows a Lack of Initiative
A good submissive anticipates. They stay engaged, keep track of what’s required, and communicate proactively. Blaming your failures on ignorance is a dead giveaway that you’re lacking initiative—and in submission, initiative isn’t optional. It’s a requirement. When you say, “I didn’t know,” what I hear is, “I didn’t care enough to find out.”
It’s Disrespectful
Submission is a gift, yes, but it’s also a responsibility. When a Dominant takes time to give you tasks, rules, or protocols, they’re offering you an opportunity to grow in your submission. Ignoring those instructions—or pretending you didn’t know better—isn’t just lazy. It’s disrespectful. It wastes My time and signals that you don’t value the privilege of serving Me. And if you can’t respect My time, why should I invest it in you?
How to Stop Using the “I Didn’t Know” Excuse
Listen Closely
If you’re genuinely committed to submission, start by listening—really listening. Pay attention to every instruction, every rule, and every nuance of communication. Take notes if you have to. No one’s going to be impressed by your memory when you can’t even remember to submit proof on time.
Ask When You’re Unsure
Not knowing something isn’t the problem—failing to ask when you’re unsure is. Don’t wait until after you’ve failed to admit you didn’t understand an instruction. Clarify upfront. Being proactive shows dedication and respect for the dynamic.
Keep Yourself Organized
Set reminders, keep a task list, and use whatever tools you need to stay on top of your responsibilities. The difference between a great submissive and an average one often comes down to consistency. And trust Me, no Dominant has ever regretted owning a submissive who’s always on point.
Reliability Is Sexy
Here’s a little secret: reliability is sexy. Knowing that I can count on you to fulfill tasks without excuses makes you valuable. When you prove that you’re attentive, proactive, and consistent, you’re not just being a better submissive—you’re making yourself irresistible. Submissives who show up fully, without excuses, are the ones who earn My attention, My time, and maybe even My favor.
On the other hand, the “I didn’t know” crowd? They’re the ones who get ignored, dismissed, or relegated to the category of disposable entertainment. If that’s the role you want, keep making excuses. If you want more, it’s time to step up and act like it.
Ready to Stop Making Excuses? Prove It.
It’s easy to talk about being a good submissive. It’s much harder to actually live up to the standard. Are you ready to stop making excuses and start being reliable? Prove it. Join the discussion in the forums, connect with other submissives who are striving to improve, and show Me that you’re serious about becoming better.
Not sure where to start? Tribute. Sign up for a challenge. Engage with My training materials. Whatever you choose, make sure your actions say, “I’m here to serve without excuses.”
Because in My world, reliability isn’t optional—it’s mandatory. And those who can’t keep up? Well, they don’t last long. Choose wisely.