The Question
Nobody Asks
A Conversation with Mistress Sofia Locktight on Women, Desire, Conditioning, and What Is Actually Yours
FemaleSlavery.com is a provocative name. That is the first thing anyone notices and for most people it is the last thing they engage with before forming an opinion. They see the name, they have a reaction, and they leave.
The ones who stay find something that does not match the reaction. A workbook called “Are You Actually Submissive?” that walks women through nine documented layers of societal conditioning, from patriarchal programming to male violence to the porn industry to the medical system, and then asks them honestly whether what they feel is genuinely theirs or was installed without their consent. An art project called the Wall of Desire where women at every size, shape, and age photograph themselves on their own terms and are celebrated for it. Guides on orgasm training and pleasure that explain women’s anatomy to them better than most of their doctors ever have.
Mistress Sofia Locktight has been building this for over twenty years across three brands: WorshipSofia.com, MenAreChattel.com, and FemaleSlavery.com. She sat down to talk about the women’s side of her work, the psychology underneath it, and the very long list of people who are angry about it.
“Why Is It Only Provocative When It Involves Sex?”
FemaleSlavery.com is a provocative name. I imagine it is provocative on purpose.
“It is certainly provocative, but do not look at me. Why is it that the only reason it is really provocative is because in this instance it has to do with sex, it has to do with BDSM, and it has to do with a woman submitting to another woman? If it is just actual general female slavery, which occurs all over the world every day and has for a couple of millennia, nobody even wants to talk about it.”
The discomfort people feel about the website name tells you more about what makes them uncomfortable than it tells you about the website.
FemaleSlavery.com“Every Single Enemy of Free Will Has Actively Worked to Destroy Women”
The “Are You Actually Submissive?” workbook on the site walks women through nine layers of societal conditioning before asking them to examine their own desire. One of the three possible outcomes is discovering you might not be submissive at all, and the workbook treats that as an equally valid result. What made you decide that was the foundation this needed to be built on?
“Because every single enemy of free will and democracy and divine feminine power has actively worked to try and destroy women by convincing them that they are submissive shit that are here to be treated like crap when they are literal life-giving goddesses.”
The workbook documents this with specifics that are difficult to read and impossible to dismiss. Patriarchal conditioning installed before a girl has language. Male violence as a compliance mechanism where 70 women a month are shot and killed by intimate partners in the US alone. A justice system where less than half a percent of sexual assaults lead to accountability and hundreds of thousands of rape kits sit untested. The Epstein case where a prosecutor called trafficked underage girls prostitutes and the files were sealed for 16 years. A $97 billion porn industry built by men, for men, reshaping what girls as young as 11 think desire is supposed to look like. A sexual revolution that repackaged male demand in feminist language. BDSM communities that sometimes replicate the dynamics they claim to oppose. Diseases women carry because of male sexual behavior. A medical system that excluded women from clinical trials until 1993 and still prescribes them less pain medication for identical pain scores. All points she raises and documents with citations in her Female Supremacy manifesto at WorshipSofia.com.
After all of that, the workbook asks one question: is what you feel genuinely yours?
The Women Who Are Angry
That question seems like it would make a lot of people uncomfortable for a lot of different reasons. Who is showing up angry?
“The saddest ones are the women who come in here angry at themselves. And they cannot get over it, because in order to do that they would have to admit that they have been doing these horrible things that they did not want to do, that were not aligned with them, because they have been brainwashed into allowing themselves to be abused.”
She pauses.
“And I am not blaming them. I am not saying they are complicit. I am saying they were literally brainwashed into this. But they are so angry about it that they cannot admit to themselves that they never wanted it. That they are disgusted by it. That they feel violated by it. So they are just furious at me for even suggesting that any woman, let alone them, should question whether or not they actually wanted to go through that.”
“I am not talking about women who were overtly abused and raped and violated. They know they did not want that. I am talking about the ones who were so well conditioned that it never even occurred to them that the fact that they are disgusted by the things they were expected to do, based off of pornography, is because it is abnormal for them to be expected to do those things. Because it has become so pervasively, disgustingly normalized in our society.”
The anger is not really at her. It is at what admitting she might be right would mean about their own history.
“Why Do We Transfer Property Along the Male Line?”
What about the other direction? The patriarchal forces, the men who are threatened by what you are doing here?
“It is threatening to the worst type of men. It is threatening to the most vile, abusive type of men. It is threatening to the type of men who like to become politicians. It is threatening to the type of men who like to be involved in BDSM with a male dominant. Not all of them, some of them are good. But it is threatening to most of them.”
That is a direct challenge to a significant portion of the BDSM community from inside it.
“Our entire society is predicated on the idea that women are going to be sold as chattel into marriage so that every man gets his own personal slave. That is what the Bible has been mistranslated into. That is what all these old books have been rewritten into. This is where men have tried to recenter themselves as a source of creation, which is ridiculous. There is not a single man on the face of this planet that was made by a man. Every single one of them was made by a woman.”
“And it is so goddamn stupid. Why would you transfer property along the line of a man when you cannot prove it? Even today with tests it can still be inaccurate. But you can always prove the maternal line. So why do we not do everything that way, like we are supposed to? Oh right, because a few men turned everything upside down because they are physically stronger, they got ahold of the power, and they just keep grasping and clawing for it.”
“While women are just continuing to be ourselves and naturally bringing our power back. You do not even have to really organize that much. It just naturally happens because it is the way things are supposed to be.”
Editor’s Note
In the full conversation, Mistress Sofia explicitly acknowledged the suffragettes and the organized efforts of women before her who fought for the rights that make her work possible today. The brevity of the quote above should not be read as dismissing those efforts. She was making the point that female authority reasserts itself naturally even without organized movements, while fully crediting the women who organized anyway.
The Closeted Haters
You mentioned a very specific category of critic: closeted lesbian women who are angry because they are attracted to you and cannot admit it to themselves.
She laughs.
“Yeah, we have all had that experience, right? Someone cannot admit to themselves that they want you but they cannot have you, so they hate you because it is easier. They are not admitting that they hate the circumstances preventing them from having you, or that they hate themselves for not being strong enough to admit it.”
“If they are gay, or if they want to be owned, like they literally want me to own their ass and they need to admit that to themselves. They are just so angry about it. Because that is how people are. It is always going to be the kinkiest guy that is going to come out and he was the most pious pastor constantly preaching about burning in hell.”
“People Are Going to Be Mad at Me Regardless”
You have women who are angry, men who are threatened, people who just read the name and lose their minds, people who think BDSM is satanic. How do you deal with that day to day without it eating you alive?
“All of that exists day to day whether or not I am willing to put it on a website and help other women realize it. I am still going to experience it myself in my life day to day regardless. Even if I am not talking about sex. Even if I am not talking about education. Even if I am not talking about BDSM. Even if I am not talking about relationships. Even if I am not talking about empowering women. Just every moment living my life in this society as a woman, I am going to experience it.”
“I might as well help other women in the process.”
“I might as well help other women in the process.”
Freud and the Century of Damage
The orgasm training guide on FemaleSlavery.com has a statistic that stopped me cold. In 1905, Freud declared the clitoral orgasm immature, and by 1944, 70 to 80 percent of women were classified as sexually dysfunctional using his framework.
“Please do not get me started on Freud. The amount of creepy weird sexual shit that was really just him projecting his own sexual dysfunction and his own sexual inadequacy and his own sexual failure onto women and refusing to take responsibility for it. The fact that he psychoanalyzed his own daughter and made her tell him her sexual feelings. The whole thing is just horrifying.”
That connects directly to Layer 9 of the workbook: the medical system built without her. Women excluded from clinical trials until 1993. Endometriosis affecting 190 million women with a four to twelve year average diagnosis time. And now funding for women-focused clinical trials being cut.
Women cannot get their bodies studied, cannot get their pain believed, got their primary pleasure organ declared immature by a man projecting his own dysfunction, and she is writing guides that explain their own anatomy to them better than their gynecologist ever did.
“And that all ties back to the fact that so many medical studies have not included women until the last couple of decades. And of course now we are going back into a point where you cannot even get funding for clinical trials if they are focused on women.”
What FemaleSlavery.com Is Actually For
Does a woman have to be submissive or into BDSM to belong at FemaleSlavery.com?
“It exists for every woman. Which is not to say that this is the home for every woman and that every woman is going to be comfortable and want to stay here. But it was actually created on behalf of the empowerment of everyone. And they are welcome to come here and take what they need and leave what they do not want.”
“They do not have to do anything or everything. If they just want to learn how to have an orgasm, we have the orgasm training guide. It does not have anything to do with having to be submissive. If somebody wants to set up a one-on-one consultation with me, it does not have to be BDSM stuff. If they just want some assistance with sex education, sex coaching, orgasm things like that, I am totally down for it.”
“You are just going to have somebody that is a bit more experienced and has had a lot more examples. You are not going to freak me out. There is not going to be a ‘that is really weird and dysfunctional and what the fuck is wrong with you.’ It is going to be, ‘yeah, I have had other similar conversations like that. It is kind of an unusual one, but it does not hurt you physically, right? So embrace it. Enjoy it.'”
“What Happens When a Woman Works Through the Workbook?”
When a woman finishes the “Are You Actually Submissive?” workbook and arrives at the answer, whatever it is, what does that moment look like?
“For most of them? Everything changes. Occasionally there are a few women who had already been trying to verbalize this, trying to explain it even to themselves, trying to find a framework of understanding because they sensed all of this, they understood inherently. And for them now everything is clicking into place and they feel complete and utter relief.”
“For the majority of women it is literally life-changing. This is completely new to them. They have never even considered this before. And they are now going to need to sit with it because they are a completely different person than they were five minutes ago. And their perspective on reality and the world that they exist in has completely changed.”
“It is like finding out that magic is real. They have literally been brainwashed and they have essentially just had that broken.”
“And of course we are not leaving them there just by themselves, a shattered mess. There is a reason there are nine layers to it and it is meant to be done over the course of a month. It is not a ‘do this in a couple hours’ type of thing. It brings them back to being centered. But they are still a completely different person now and they are going to have to examine what they want to do from here.”
“My Primary Focus on Men Is Taking Their Money and Making Fun of Them”
You run FemaleSlavery.com for women and MenAreChattel.com for men simultaneously. How do you hold both of those at the same time?
“My primary focus on men is taking their money and making fun of them.”
And somehow that is also the most effective personal development framework many of them have ever encountered. She thinks about it for a second.
“What do male-centered women even do with their time?”
She is genuinely asking. Not rhetorically. She has actually never thought about it before and the question has just occurred to her in real time.
“I do not know. I genuinely do not know.”
She thinks about it a moment longer.
“The only things I think about with men are when they annoy me and I want to figure out how to make them stop doing it and make them go away. And preferably pay me for my time.”
The Invitation
Last question. If there is one thing you want the woman who just found this interview to walk away with, what is it?
“Just be brave enough to stick around. You do not have to stay for a long time. Just poke around a bit. Actually read a couple of things. Just stay long enough to get really pissed off or really turned on. And then if you are so moved, feel free to shoot me an email and let me know how you feel about it.”
“Just stay long enough to get really pissed off or really turned on.”
